The Therapist’s Therapist
Challenging, depth-oriented therapy for therapists.
Because you didn’t become a therapist by accident.
Depth-Oriented
Therapy for Therapists
You want a therapist
who works with therapists
Parentified kids tend to be precocious, and they often grow into over-functioning adults. That can make finding a therapist tough: you see around corners, anticipate moves, and can outthink most people—including your therapist.
Therapy is different when you’re a therapist
You already know the language, recognize the interventions, and may understand exactly why you do what you do, yet still find yourself doing it. Good therapy for therapists must get beyond intellectual understanding and create an experience capable of changing what insight alone hasn’t.
Here’s what that can look like:
Challenge, not just comfort
Getting to the roots rather than soothing the symptom
A therapist with an opinion, who uses it when needed
Someone who sees your defenses and pushes back on them
Paradox, humor, and directness, used to create emotionally compelling moments and spark bottom-up change
15+ years of experience doing trauma-focused and inpatient therapy, plus supervising and treating other therapists
Someone who isn’t so fucking proper
Okay, but how do we do it?
I practice what I call Functional Psychotherapy—a relational, non-pathologizing, integrative model guided by the neuroscience of memory reconsolidation.
The work is bottom-up, experiential, and transformational rather than top-down and counteractive.
Learn more about how Functional Psychotherapy works as well as the story behind how I developed it.
Great. So how’s it feel when I’m done?
When bottom-up change finally clicks, it feels like something you've always known. You're setting limits, saying no, prioritizing yourself—without the guilt. Or maybe you're holding your anger differently, biting your tongue a little more. Maybe you're just slowing down.
For many, the shift can be so seamless they barely notice it happened. Bruce Ecker—the therapist who brought memory reconsolidation into psychotherapy—calls that "effortless nonreactivation." You stop reminding yourself to do or not do something. You just do it. Or don't.
I recently published a case study showing how the process unfolds with a combat-veteran client, who describes it in his own words. In this paper and another paper, I give more examples of my use of paradox in session.
Who “holds” the “holder”?
Many therapists grew up as the emotional anchors in their families, parentified kids who became professional holders of others.
The problem has become those old roles followed you into adulthood. Only now you’re ready to revisit them, challenge them, and change them.
Something had to give.
Now that you’re here, it’s our chance to break those rules and upset those old norms. For once, you’ll insist on having needs, saying no, and not letting yourself always over-function. You can figure out who you are when you aren’t looking out for everyone else.
For once, it’s you that’s held.
Dr. Jim Mosher, PhD, ABPP
In-Person (Bloomington, MN)- Telehealth (43 PSYPACT States, plus NY)
What’s next?
None of us chose this field by accident. I know I didn’t. But for many of us, what brought us to it can still get in the way. Over-rehearsed patterns from childhood that are difficult to step out of.
If you’re ready to change, here’s what’s next:
Let’s just talk. Schedule a free consult. No pressure or pitch—let’s just see how we fit.
If we do, let’s have a real first session. Not a diagnostic assessment. A conversation where I get to know you, your life, your experiences, and how they connect to your pain.
Then we roll up our sleeves and get to work helping you get out of your own way to become your truest self.
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Therapy for therapists
Dive into yourself, confront your fears, become the most authentic “you.”
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Consultation & Supervision
Integrative supervision that considers your roles as therapist and as person.
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Online Therapy for Therapists, Nationwide
I practice in 43 other states, and have telehealth practices in Atlanta, Austin, Chicago, Dallas, Denver, New York, Philadelphia, Seattle, and Washington, DC.
Change begins with discomfort.
Let’s get uncomfortable.
You already know you want to work with me?
Or, start smaller. Let’s just see how we fit first.
Still deciding or just have a question?