The Therapist’s Therapist
Depth-oriented therapy for therapists.
Because you didn’t become a therapist by accident.
Therapy for Therapists
Therapy is different when you’re a therapist
Finding a therapist can be tough, especially when you are a therapist. You probably can outthink most people—including your therapists—and see around corners, anticipate their moves, and get in your own way.
You already know the language, recognize the techniques, and probably get exactly why you do what you do—yet you still find yourself doing it, anyway.
Good therapy must get beyond intellectual understanding and create an experience capable of changing what insight alone hasn’t.
Here’s what that can look like:
Challenge, not just support and comfort
Getting to the roots, not soothing the symptom
A therapist with an opinion who will use it when needed
Someone who sees your defenses and pushes back on them
Paradox, humor, and directness, used to create emotionally compelling moments and spark bottom-up change
Experience: I have spent more than 15 years doing trauma-focused and inpatient therapy, plus supervising and treating other therapists
For better or worse, sometimes it helps having a therapist who isn’t so fucking proper
Who “holds” the “holder”?
Many therapists grew up as the emotional anchors in their families, parentified kids who learned early to hold others. Those experiences often led them to the field and translated into a talent for helping others.
But parentified kids tend to be precocious, and precocious kids often become over-functioning adults. Those old roles follow you into adulthood.
But something had to give.
Now, maybe you’re ready to revisit them, challenge them, and change them.
This is your chance to break those rules and upset those old norms. Then you can insist on having needs and not letting yourself over-function.
Only then do you start to figure out who you are when you’re not looking out for everyone else.
Okay, but how do we do it?
I practice what I call Functional Psychotherapy, a relational, non-pathologizing, integrative model guided by the neuroscience of memory reconsolidation.
The work is bottom-up, experiential, and transformational rather than top-down and counteractive.
Learn more about how Functional Psychotherapy works as well as the story behind how I developed it.
Great. So how’s it feel when I’m done?
When bottom-up change finally clicks, it feels like something you've always known. You're setting limits, saying no, prioritizing yourself—without the guilt. Or maybe you're holding your anger differently, biting your tongue a little more. Maybe you're just slowing down.
For many, the shift can be so seamless they barely notice it happened. Bruce Ecker—the therapist who brought memory reconsolidation into psychotherapy—calls that "effortless nonreactivation." You stop reminding yourself to do or not do something. You just do it. Or don't.
I recently published a case study showing how the process unfolds with a combat-veteran client, who describes it in his own words. In this paper and another paper, I give more examples of my use of paradox in session.
Dr. Jim Mosher, PhD, ABPP
In-Person (Bloomington, MN)- Telehealth (43 PSYPACT States, plus NY)
What’s next?
None of us chose this field by accident. I know I didn’t. But for many of us, what brought us to it can still get in the way. Over-rehearsed patterns from childhood that are difficult to step out of.
If you’re ready to change, here’s what’s next:
Let’s just talk.
Schedule a free consult. No pressure or pitch—let’s just see how we fit.If we do, let’s have a real first session.
Not a diagnostic assessment—a conversation. I must get to your experiences and how they connect to your pain.Then we roll up our sleeves and get to work.
Let’s help you get out of your own way and get uncomfortable so you can become your truest self.
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Therapy for therapists
Dive into yourself, confront your fears, become the most authentic “you.”
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Consultation & Supervision
Integrative supervision that considers your roles as therapist and as person.
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Online Therapy for Therapists, Nationwide
I practice in 43 other states, and have telehealth practices in Atlanta, Austin, Chicago, Dallas, Denver, New York, Philadelphia, Seattle, and Washington, DC.
Change begins with discomfort.
Let’s get uncomfortable.
You already know you want to work with me?
Or, start smaller. Let’s just see how we fit first.
Still deciding or just have a question?