The Therapist’s Therapist
Because you didn’t become a therapist by accident.
For therapists looking to face the experiences that shaped them.
Dr. Jim Mosher, PhD, ABPP
In-Person (Bloomington, MN)- Telehealth (43 PSYPACT States, plus NY)
Why you’re here
You didn’t choose this field by chance. For many, it was a mix of unhealed wounds and the roles they learned early on.
Those forces didn’t disappear just because you became a therapist. In fact, they might be why we’re good at it. But you can’t keep ignoring them, because their impact is real:
Unmet needs you still overlook
Family roles that have become your identity
Trauma that shapes how you treat you
Patterns that once helped, now limit you
Your burnout, guilt, and frustration are telling you it’s time to look inward and take care of you.
Who “holds” the “holder”?
Many therapists grew up as the emotional anchors in their families, parentified kids who became therapists—professional holders of others.
But now the question is: Who holds you?
At first, it can be tough. Prioritizing your needs, saying no, not always being at the ready—it means breaking rules you’ve lived by your entire life.
But if we don’t get out of our comfort zone, nothing changes.
Therapy is where we upset the norm. Where you come first, whether that means saying “no” more to others or to yourself.
So reach out and let’s get uncomfortable.
Depth-Oriented
Therapy for Therapists
Tired of looking for a therapist?
Parentified kids tend to be precocious, and they often grow into over-functioning adults. That can make finding a therapist tough: you see around corners, anticipate moves, and can outthink most people—including your therapist.
Maybe you don't want "nice." Maybe you want someone who meets your depth and keeps you honest.
Here’s what that can look like:
Challenge, not just comfort
Getting to the roots rather than soothing the symptom
A therapist with an opinion, who uses it when needed
Someone who sees your defenses and pushes back on them
Paradox, humor, and directness, used to create emotionally compelling moments and spark bottom-up change
15+ years of experience doing trauma-focused and inpatient therapy, plus supervising and treating other therapists
Someone who isn’t so fucking proper
Okay, but how do we do it?
I practice what I call Functional Psychotherapy—a relational, non-pathologizing, integrative model guided by the neuroscience of memory reconsolidation.
The work is bottom-up, experiential, and transformational rather than top-down and counteractive.
Learn more about how Functional Psychotherapy works as well as the story behind how I developed it.
Great. So how’s it feel when I’m done?
When bottom-up change finally clicks, it feels like something you've always known. You're setting limits, saying no, prioritizing yourself—without the guilt. Or maybe you're holding your anger differently, biting your tongue a little more. Maybe you're just slowing down.
For many, the shift can be so seamless they barely notice it happened. Bruce Ecker—the therapist who brought memory reconsolidation into psychotherapy—calls that "effortless nonreactivation." You stop reminding yourself to do or not do something. You just do it. Or don't.
I recently published a case study showing how the process unfolds with a combat-veteran client, who describes it in his own words. In this paper and another paper, I give more examples of my use of paradox in session.
What’s next?
Let’s just talk. Schedule a free consult. No pressure or pitch—let’s just see how we fit.
If we do, let’s have a real first session. Not a diagnostic assessment. A conversation where I get to know you, your life, your experiences, and how they connect to your pain.
Then we roll up our sleeves and get to work understanding you, breaking down your walls, and helping you get out of your own way to become your truest self.
I look forward to meeting you!
-Jim
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Consultation & Supervision
Integrative supervision that considers your roles as therapist and as person.
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Executives & Founders
The same in-depth principles, for those at the top carrying more than most. Visit www.parallaxpsych.com
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Not a therapist?
When the fit is right, I work with non-therapists, too. So reach out—let’s talk.
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Not in Minnesota?
I can practice in 43 other states, and have telehealth practices in Atlanta, Austin, Chicago, Dallas, Denver, New York, Philadelphia, Seattle, and Washington, DC.
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Therapy for therapists
Dive into yourself, confront your fears, become the most authentic “you.”
Change begins with discomfort.
Let’s get uncomfortable.
You already know you want to work with me?
Or, start smaller. Let’s just see how we fit first.
Still deciding or just have a question?